TGIF!!!!
Let me get my birthday shout-outs out the way - Happy Birthday to Anthony "Latinegro" Otero today! And tomorrow is Dmoe's birthday, so Happy Birthday early to you too!
Okay, so yesterday, Yolanda mentioned in her Random Thoughts that men confuse her. Rameer said that men are pretty easy to understand...the "normal" ones anyway.
So, I decided to take a poll and make a list of all the things that women say confuse them about men. These are in no particular order, and maybe the men can shed a little light on the things that confuse us. I would say that I'll give the men a chance to tell us the things we do that confuse them, but I don't really think they care :) They just accept that we're confusing creatures and they keep it movin'.
However, if any men are inclined to share, then email your frustrations to me at brookeybaby73@yahoo.com and I'll dedicate a blog to that for another day.
Okay, onto the things that confuse women about men...as I've been told :)
What I've done is number the questions that women had. Now I want the men to address/answer the questions in the blog comments by their corresponding number. You can answer one, two or all of them if you like. Understand?
And women, if you have more questions to add, then continue the number in your comments. Got it? Okay...let's go.
Why does he...???
1. say he doesn't like drama, but repeatedly gets into relationships with crazy women?
(maybe he wants to be like Ray J and "Danger" :-)
2. say he doesn't want a woman who is only interested in his money, but will brag about the new Lambo he just bought or how much he made in the stock market?
(bragging = not attractive)
3. always claim to have a girlfriend or be in a relationship, but then cheats every time? Why not just date? Why have a girlfriend if you KNOW you can't be faithful?
(That is one I never understood either)
4. ask for your phone number, never call...but he'll text you to death?
(annoying right? full paragraphs are not cool on text...who has the time?)
5. assume that if you cook for him, you're trying to be his wife?
(Dude, I was just being nice and you looked hungry...no strays)
6. not like cats? Because they're smarter than dogs?
(I'm sure if E. Payne reads this, he'll have something to say) :-)
7. brag about his sexual prowess, knowing he can't f*ck?
(he probably still sleeps in a single bed with "Star Wars" bedding...and when he kisses you, only his tongue moves...Rookie!)
8. play video games past the age of 30?
(Actually, this one doesn't confuse or bother me - but a lot of women seem to have a problem with this. There are worse things he could be doing. Be glad he's home playing with you and not out "playing" with someone else)
9. have sex with women he'd absolutely NEVER have a child with?
(is this a real question? he barely has to even know her name, let alone want her to be his baby mama - NEXT!)
10. express his interest in a woman, knowing he's not really available?
(again I ask, is this a real question?)
11. assume that if he tells a woman the truth, she won’t be able to handle it?
(Unless she’s the violent type, man up and tell her. She’ll respect you more after all is said and done. We handle the truth way better than we handle discovering a lie...trust me on that)
12. act like he doesn't care when he really does?
(uuummmm...maybe he REALLY just DOESN'T care)
13. drop everything just to watch the play-offs?
(uh...I kinda do too, so this doesn't bother me)
14. have a hard time expressing himself fully — especially when it deals with emotions?
(I'll leave this one to the men - no comment)
15. wait for us to say "I love you" first, even if he feels it first?
(how do you know he feels it first? no one likes rejection, and if you don't say it back??..whoa...)
16. have to have every electronic device known to man?
(hey, as long as someone knows how to work those things, I'm good)
17. read King and XXL Magazine and expect us not to feel a little self-conscious? We don’t look like video vixens - if that’s what he wants, why is he with me?
(sounds like a self-esteem issue...and he's with you cuz he can't get them! LOL!)
18. not want us until someone else wants us?
(this sounds like a DMoe quote - "nobody wants nobody nobody wants"...or something like that)
19. claim to be fearless, but when shown or given real, God's honest, genuine love...he hightails it and runs for the hills?
(cuz love is scary, that's why)
20. have the ability to be totally real with us when we're just friends, but the honesty and intimacy go out the window once we become lovers?
(hmmm, good one...I'm curious to read some answers on this one)
21. scoff at being "just friends"...as if the friendship is the "consolation prize" rather than the gift it truly is?
(cuz he wants to tap dat ass!)
22. feel that opening doors or doing something else chivalrous somehow translates into being "soft" or "whipped?"
(no home training)
23. dog the sh*t out of the next girl who comes after the one who broke his heart?
(come on now...women do this too...and most men aren't built to deal with heartache or confusion of emotions like women are)
24. feel that if he buys me a drink at a club/lounge, that I owe him all my time the rest of the night?
(hey, you offered...I didn't ask. LOL!)
25. say he needs time apart, but still calls you everyday and wants to "hang out" like you always do?
(cuz he wants to stay present enough so that YOU don't start dating someone else, and in case he wants to backslide. If he tells you he needs space, tell him to kick rocks, LOL!)
Okay, go!
-b
