I know that title got your attention....let's go!
Dear Brookey,
I know today isn’t TMI Tuesday, so you can feel free to save this post for the next one if you want, but after the “going downtown” blog from yesterday, I figured I’d write you about another touchy sex topic: swallowing. I can’t do it. I have no problem performing oral sex, but I refuse to swallow his cum. Once it’s in my mouth, I spit it out, and my boyfriend is offended by it. I think it’s disgusting, the taste repulses me and I think it’s unsanitary. I feel that he should appreciate that I’m giving him a blowjob in the first place, and asking me to swallow is rude. What do you think?
- Not Doing It
Umm….hmm…lemme think.
The quick answer is this: if you are uncomfortable with it, then don’t do it. No one should feel obligated to swallow jiz if they don’t want to. If it repulses you, then the last thing he needs is for you to vomit his own cum back up on him. Just gross.
However…
Maybe there’s something he can do to make it taste better? I’ve heard that if a man drinks cranberry or pineapple juice, the taste can be less…nasty? I don’t know what his spunk tastes like, or if you think it all tastes the same no matter what, but maybe he can change his diet to make it less ikky. After all, you cum what you eat :-) If he drinks, smokes, eats a lot of junk food, etc., then his stuff probably makes you wanna throw up in your mouth a little bit. Strongly spiced dishes, like curry, can also carry their flavors over into his cum. Of course, you don't want to restrict what he eats too much - everyone needs to have a balanced diet and eat what they like - but it's something to keep in mind: Men - if you're planning on getting head after dinner, you might want to skip the asparagus appetizer. Jus’sayin’.
The main complaints about the taste of semen are that it is bitter and salty. The taste buds on different areas of the tongue are sensitive to specific tastes: sweet on the tip of the tongue, salty and sour on the sides, and bitter at the back. When swallowing semen, you can minimize the unpleasant tastes by trying to keep it away from the corresponding parts of your tongue. Since the "bitter" taste buds at the back of the throat are the most problematic, the solution is either to overshoot them (by deep throating), or to pool the semen in the front of the mouth and then swallow quickly in one gulp. Make sure the cum spends as little time as possible lingering near the back of your palate.
Another tip to make the taste more pleasant is to pop an Altoid or Tic Tac right before going down there. He may enjoy the tingle and when he busts, his semen will get lost in the flavor of the Altoid and you won’t taste a thing. Don’t use anything that has any alcohol in it, like mouthwash or breath spray, cuz that could sting….so I’ve heard :-)
Or you could use food to get rid of the taste. Have fun with it - use fruit, popsicles, chocolate or whipped cream on him, and it can mask the taste. Have a can of whipped cream next to the bed, and after he comes, stick the nozzle in your mouth and chase his cum with an extra shot of “cream.” He might think it’s sexy….who knows.
Now, if you think it’s unsanitary, that translates to me that you think there’s something in his semen that’ll make you sick. This may be true if he’s walking around with an STD, but if he’s your boyfriend, you both are exclusive and have been tested for every STD under the sun, then there’s nothing unhealthy about it. Sperm only accounts for a small about of semen, the rest (about 90 percent) is seminal fluid, which is composed of dozens of chemical components. The base of seminal fluid is primarily fructose (sugar) and proteins, with many other trace minerals and substances. Seminal fluid is a veritable nutrient-rich soup. Semen is a source of highly concentrated, high-quality protein. In dietary terms, it's comparable to egg whites or gelatin. At the end of the day, healthy semen (that is, cum produced by a well-nourished, disease-free man) may in fact be not only safe to eat, but actually good for you.
As far as him being offended, think of it like this – what if after going down on you, he immediately got up, went to the bathroom and gargled Listerine to get the taste of you out of his mouth? You might feel some kinda way right? That’s probably how he feels. I don’t know how long you two have been dating, but most men in a relationship probably view you swallowing his stuff as a form of acceptance, and spitting it out as some sort of rejection. I’m not saying you have to do it to show him how much you love him, I’m just imagining how he feels after you spit his spunk out into the nearest towel. You think it’s rude of him to ask, but he might consider it impolite to spit it out. I'm just looking at it from both sides. I just hope you’re not actually spitting it ON him. Cum soaked towels are messy to get rid of too…swallowing just seems…neater :-)
At the end of the day, you should do what feels most comfortable to you, and him harassing you about it probably doesn’t help. Just discuss it with him, when you’re NOT in bed, and make him aware your concerns. If after reading this you still think it’s gross and unsanitary, then don’t do it…do what is best for you. Good luck!
-b
